We’re rolling into the holiday’s, and everywhere you look you’re hearing the word gratitude. But if we’re being honest? A lot of women are walking around with something very different humming underneath the surface:
👉 “I should be doing better.”
👉 “I messed up… again.”
👉 “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it.”
👉 “Everyone else is farther along than I am.”
👉 “I messed up… again.”
👉 “I know what to do, but I’m not doing it.”
👉 “Everyone else is farther along than I am.”
That isn’t gratitude.
That’s guilt. And it’s quietly running the show.
That’s guilt. And it’s quietly running the show.
This week on Awaken Wellness TV, I went deep into this exact topic: how gratitude vs. guilt impacts your nervous system, your hormones, your inflammation, and your ability to actually heal.
🔁 Replay the full episode here:
👉 Watch the “Gratitude vs Guilt” episode on Awaken Wellness TV.
👉 Watch the “Gratitude vs Guilt” episode on Awaken Wellness TV.
Your Words Are Not Harmless
Most women I work with at Awaken Wellness don’t realize how brutal their self-talk is.
They would never say to a friend what they say to themselves in their own head:
- “I’m so behind.”
- “I’ll never catch up.”
- “I always mess this up.”
- “I can’t stick with anything.”
- “What’s the point? I already blew it.”
We’ve normalized this constant internal beating.
But your body doesn’t hear “sentences” — it hears frequency.
But your body doesn’t hear “sentences” — it hears frequency.
Your body speaks:
- Chemistry
- Electricity
- Current
Every time you speak, think, or dwell on guilt-soaked thoughts, your body hears one thing:
“I am not safe.”
And a body that doesn’t feel safe is not going to prioritize healing.
Guilt vs. Gratitude: Two Frequencies, Two Outcomes
Let’s boil it down.
When you live in guilt, your brain and body hear:
- Danger
- Threat
- “We’re failing”
- “We’re not enough”
Your nervous system responds by staying in:
- Fight
- Flight
- Freeze
In those states:
- Sleep suffers
- Cravings spike
- Hormones go sideways
- Blood sugar becomes unstable
- Inflammation rises
- Weight clings, even when you’re “doing everything right”
You can be on the best supplements in the world, eating cleaner than ever, and still feel stuck if your nervous system is locked in survival mode.
When you live in gratitude, your body hears:
- Safety
- Support
- Compassion
- “We’re worth investing in”
Gratitude:
- Softens your nervous system
- Lowers stress chemistry
- Opens the door for repair
- Allows your body to finally feel safe enough to let go — of tension, of inflammation, of extra weight, of old patterns
This isn’t fluffy “positive thinking.”
It’s how science meets soul. Your emotional state influences your chemistry, which changes your biology.
It’s how science meets soul. Your emotional state influences your chemistry, which changes your biology.
The All-or-Nothing Trap (and Why It Keeps You Stuck)
I see this all the time with my overachievers and perfectionists:
“If I can’t do it all just right, I’m not doing it at all.”
You might recognize some of these:
- “If I can’t eat 100% organic, what’s the point?”
- “If I messed up my no-sugar challenge on day 3, I might as well throw the whole thing away.”
- “If I didn’t hit my 100 grams of protein, I failed today.”
That’s guilt running the show.
Gratitude looks different:
- “I’m proud I chose the organic apple today.”
- “I made it three days without sugar — that’s three more than before.”
- “I didn’t hit 100 grams of protein, but I got more in than I usually do.”
Gratitude doesn’t lie and pretend everything’s perfect.
It simply says: “I acknowledge what is working — and I build from there.”
It simply says: “I acknowledge what is working — and I build from there.”
Your Body Is Not the Enemy — It’s the Messenger
If guilt could have healed you, it would have worked by now.
Read that again.
Your body is not your enemy. Food is not your enemy. Your symptoms are not punishment — they are messages.
- That stomach ache? Message.
- That brain fog? Message.
- Those stubborn extra pounds? Message.
- That chronic pain or fatigue? Message.
Gratitude is what allows you to actually hear the message instead of attacking yourself for having one.
When you move from,
“What’s wrong with me?”
to
“What is my body trying to tell me?”
…you step out of shame and into wisdom.
Practical Ways to Shift from Guilt to Gratitude (Starting Tonight)
Let’s get really practical. Here are some simple tools you can use today.
1. The Nighttime Swap (60 Seconds)
Most women do a guilt inventory when they lay down at night:
- “I didn’t get the laundry done.”
- “I forgot to sign the paper for the kids.”
- “I didn’t eat how I planned.”
- “I didn’t move my body.”
Tonight, swap that out.
Before you fall asleep, ask yourself:
- One thing I’m grateful for about my body today:“Thank you, body, for carrying me through another day.”
“Thank you, legs, for walking me where I needed to go.” - One thing I did well today (even if it’s tiny):“I drank water before my coffee.”
“I showed kindness to a stranger.”
“I made one better food choice.” - One thing I’m hopeful for about tomorrow:“Tomorrow I will give my body one more micro-win.”
Sixty seconds.
Done consistently? Life-changing.
Done consistently? Life-changing.
2. Upgrade Your Language
Catch yourself when you say:
- “I’m broken.”
- “I’m a mess.”
- “I always fail.”
- “I have no discipline.”
Swap to:
- “I’m learning.”
- “I’m rebuilding trust with my body.”
- “I’m improving one small step at a time.”
- “I’m not where I want to be yet, but I’m not where I used to be.”
Your words are not neutral.
They are spells you cast over your own nervous system.
They are spells you cast over your own nervous system.
3. Focus on Micro-Wins, Not Massive Overhauls
Your nervous system does not need you to fix your last 20 years of habits by Monday.
It needs one supportive step today.
Examples:
- Salt on your tongue + 8 oz of water before coffee
- 5 minutes of walking outside
- 3 deep breaths every time you get in the car
- Screen-free wind-down with an actual book instead of scrolling
- One upgraded food choice (not a whole new diet)
Pick one daily non-negotiable and stick with it.
Next week, add a second. Let the momentum build.
Next week, add a second. Let the momentum build.
Guilt collapses your wins.
Gratitude multiplies them.
Gratitude multiplies them.
Why Healing in Community Is So Powerful
Inside my group programs, we don’t just talk about food and supplements.
We work on:
- Mindset
- Nervous system regulation
- Gratitude practices
- Micro-habits
- Emotional safety
We also heal together.
When you step into a community where:
- You are not judged for where you’re starting
- You are encouraged for every micro-win
- You are reminded that you are not broken, just overloaded
…your nervous system feels something it maybe hasn’t felt in a long time:
Safe. Seen. Supported.
That’s when the body finally says,
“Okay. We can start to repair.”
“Okay. We can start to repair.”
Want to Go Deeper? Watch the Full Conversation
This blog is just a slice of what we unpacked in the full episode.
🎥 Replay the full “Gratitude vs Guilt” teaching on Awaken Wellness TV:
👉 Click here to watch the replay.
👉 Click here to watch the replay.
If this message hits home, share it with:
- The overachiever who beats herself up constantly
- The friend who “does everything right” and still feels stuck
- The mom who carries silent guilt for everyone and everything
You don’t guilt your way into healing.
You love, honor, and partner your way into it.
You love, honor, and partner your way into it.
Next Steps with Awaken Wellness
If you’re ready to move out of guilt and into true, rooted, sustainable healing:
🧡 Join my next Group Coaching Cohort
We start again in January.
Weekly Sunday calls, education modules, a 5-minute gratitude journal, and a community that gets it.
Visit awakenedwellnessllc.com and click Virtual to explore options.
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Visit awakenedwellnessllc.com and click Virtual to explore options.
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Join us January 5–9, 2026 for a powerful week of live, virtual sessions with 18 presenters plus an in-person VIP event in Sidney, Montana.
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From my heart to yours:
Happy Holidays. End 2025 with intention to Heal in 2026.
May this season mark the moment you trade guilt for gratitude, punishment for partnership, and survival mode for true healing.
Happy Holidays. End 2025 with intention to Heal in 2026.
May this season mark the moment you trade guilt for gratitude, punishment for partnership, and survival mode for true healing.
When your in a low place with your health you just need someone to believe in you. I Believe in YOU - Nurse Tanya
If you’re feeling wired, tired, overstimulated, irritable, or emotionally stretched thin, you are not alone — and you’re not broken. What you’re feeling is nervous system dysregulation, and this time of year can push even the strongest of us over the edge.
Between holiday schedules, sugar, social expectations, overstimulation, late nights, and the mental load of remembering everything for everyone… your nervous system reads it all as a physical threat.
Cortisol rises.
Blood sugar swings.
Your brain becomes hyper-vigilant.
Your patience disappears.
Your sleep crashes.
Your energy drains.
Blood sugar swings.
Your brain becomes hyper-vigilant.
Your patience disappears.
Your sleep crashes.
Your energy drains.
The good news?
You can retrain your nervous system — and you can start today.
You can retrain your nervous system — and you can start today.
This article gives you simple, actionable steps to calm your stress response, support your hormones, protect your mental health, and restore balance even in the chaos.
To watch the full teaching and dive deeper, stream the episode now on Awakened Wellness TV:
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Why Your Nervous System Feels Overloaded
Most people think their irritability, anxiety, or lack of motivation is “just their personality.”
It’s not.
It’s not.
Your nervous system interprets:
- noise
- sugar
- overstimulation
- poor sleep
- deadlines
- multitasking
- emotional load
- EMF exposure
- and even late-night scrolling
…as an ongoing threat.
This triggers your fight-or-flight response, leading to symptoms like:
- tension headaches
- fatigue
- digestive issues
- mood swings
- overwhelm
- anxiety
- chronic pain
- autoimmune flare-ups
This is physiology — not weakness.
And once you understand how to support the system that runs everything, your whole life begins to shift.
7 Tools to Calm Your Nervous System Fast
These strategies work in real life, even if you're busy, overwhelmed, or stretched thin.
1. Box Breathing (4-7-8 Pattern)
This isn’t “just take a deep breath.”
This is a neurological reset button.
This is a neurological reset button.
Try:
- Inhale for 4
- Hold for 7
- Exhale for 8
Repeat 4 rounds.
This helps your brain flip from “threat” mode to “safe” mode in under two minutes.
2. Hydrate With Minerals
Most people are dehydrated and mineral-deficient — especially under stress.
My favorites:
- Baja Gold
- Redmond Sea Salt
- Celtic Salt
Put a pinch right on your tongue while drinking water. Hydration + minerals relax the muscles, lower stress hormones, and improve sleep.
3. Shake Off Tension
Literally.
Shake your hands.
Roll your shoulders.
Bounce lightly for 20–30 seconds.
Roll your shoulders.
Bounce lightly for 20–30 seconds.
This releases adrenaline and signals your body: we are safe.
4. Protein by 10 AM
The WORST thing you can start your day with:
✓ sugar
✓ carbs
✓ treats
✓ “fun” breakfasts
✓ kids’ cereal
✓ coffee only
✓ sugar
✓ carbs
✓ treats
✓ “fun” breakfasts
✓ kids’ cereal
✓ coffee only
The BEST thing you can start with:
Protein.
30–50g in the morning stabilizes blood sugar, mood, and hormones for the entire day.
Protein.
30–50g in the morning stabilizes blood sugar, mood, and hormones for the entire day.
Kids transform on this one change alone.
5. Take a 48-Hour Break From Multitasking
Ladies…
Too many tabs open in your brain and in your browser.
Too many tabs open in your brain and in your browser.
Multitasking overloads dopamine and keeps your nervous system dysregulated.
Try a 48-hour challenge:
One task at a time.
No stacking.
One task at a time.
No stacking.
You will feel the shift.
6. Ask Yourself This One Grounding Question:
"Is this mine to carry?"
Most of what’s weighing you down isn’t even yours.
Quit carrying other people’s stress in your purse.
7. Use Cold Therapy for Immediate Relief
Splash cold water on your face.
Grab a cold washcloth on your neck.
End your shower with 10–30 seconds of cold.
Grab a cold washcloth on your neck.
End your shower with 10–30 seconds of cold.
This flips the vagus nerve into reset mode fast.
Your Nervous System Can’t Heal Without Mitochondrial Support
You cannot regulate your nervous system when your mitochondria (your cellular batteries) are depleted.
This is why so many people feel:
- exhausted
- inflamed
- emotionally unstable
- foggy
- burnt out
- “not like themselves”
At Awakened Wellness, we work on the deep root causes:
- mitochondrial repair
- drainage pathways
- cellular detox
- parasite cleansing
- liver support
- gut-brain balance
When you fix the foundation, your body begins to heal — with less resistance and more momentum.
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You Are Not Broken — You’re Overloaded
When you remove what’s harming the body and replenish what’s missing, the body will heal.
You just need someone to show you the roadmap.
If this post helped you, share it with someone you love.
Let’s help more people awaken to the wellness within.
Let’s help more people awaken to the wellness within.
Tanya Candee RN
When your in a low place with your health you just need someone to believe in you. I Believe in YOU - Nurse Tanya
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How many times have you set out to make a change—maybe even started the 120-Day Foundation—and then life got in the way? The demands of work, family, and stress creep in, and before you know it, you’ve lost momentum.
Or maybe you did finish strong but felt that familiar letdown once the program ended, wishing you had people to keep walking with.
That’s why I created a private community that meets every Sunday evening on Zoom.
This isn’t just another Facebook group you’ll forget about. This is a gathering of like-minded people who understand what it means to try again, to persevere, and to keep building a healthier life even when the world feels heavy.
What Makes This Community Different
✨ It’s not about perfection. Everyone in the group has stumbled at some point. You’re welcome whether you crushed your first round or barely made it through week two.
✨ It’s about shared strength. We celebrate wins, troubleshoot struggles, and lean on each other when it gets hard.
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Most importantly—you won’t feel like you’re doing it alone.
How to Join
Here’s the beautiful part: all paths lead to the same circle. To get your invite, simply subscribe to one of my affordable coaching options. No matter which one fits your life right now, you’ll have access to the Sunday community:
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📚 DIY Self-Paced Coaching – flexible modules + supplement discounts
🤝 1:1 Programs – personalized deep-dive support
Each option is designed to meet you where you’re at. You choose the door—but they all lead to the same powerful community.
Why You Can’t Afford to Miss This
The truth is, transformation rarely happens in isolation. Healing sticks when you’re surrounded by people who remind you why you started and cheer you on when it gets messy.
This Sunday circle is more than a Zoom call. It’s a lifeline—a place to be real, to find answers, and to keep pressing forward when everything else tells you to quit.
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